When you’re considering adoption as a pregnant woman, one of the biggest questions you probably have is who will adopt your child. In today’s adoptions, you have the ability to not only choose the adoptive parents your child will grow up with but also to meet them before your baby is born and maintain communication with them after your adoption is complete.
Choosing adoptive parents for your baby can feel overwhelming at first. How do you find people who are looking to adopt? And how do you even begin to choose the right family to provide the life you want for your baby?
Unlike other law firms, we do not match you with families that we are representing. We are dedicated to finding the perfect match for you based on your needs and preferences and giving you our undivided attention throughout the match process. When we represent only you, we are focused solely on your needs, rather than those of a prospective adoptive family. We have many contacts to locate families wanting to adopt in Arizona and throughout the U.S., so we will help you find the perfect adoptive family for your child, no matter where they are. When you work with MyersStrickland, you are involved and in charge of every step in your adoption journey.
If you call us at 520-327-6041, we can discuss which adoptive families in Arizona and other states may fit your preferences for adoptive parents. Our in-depth conversations with you will help us evaluate your circumstances and situation to determine which adoptive family will best meet your goals.
We understand how important your decision of adoptive parents is to you, and our resources will always be available to you. You can contact us at any time to learn more about finding adoptive parents in Arizona or another state, whether you’re still considering adoption and have questions or are ready to start the adoption process.
What Kind of Family You’re Looking For
At MyersStrickland, we believe there are right adoptive parents for every prospective birth mother. An important part of finding them is figuring out exactly what you want in an adoptive family.
One of the first things you’ll need to decide is whether you’d like an open adoption (where you can be in contact with the adoptive family before, during and after the adoption) or a closed adoption (where you have no contact with the adoptive family before, during and after the adoption). For most pregnant women considering adoption, open adoption is the preferred way to make sure the family they choose is just right for their child.
Open adoption also gives you the opportunity to choose what kind of (and how much) contact you’re comfortable with. For example, if you decide you want to visit your baby twice a year, we can help you find a family that wants the same exact thing. In addition to your contact preferences, you will also have the ability to choose what potential adoptive families for your baby may look like. When you’re looking for adoptive parents for your baby, here are some questions to ask yourself:
- Where do I want them to live? At MyersStrickland, we don’t limit you to adoptive parents in Arizona. We have contacts throughout the United States, so whether you’re looking for adoptive parents in Arizona or somewhere farther away, we can find a family for you. And you don’t only get to choose their state of residence; you also can decide whether you want your child raised on a country farm, downtown in a big city or a suburban family neighborhood.
- What do I want them to look like? You will have the ability to choose the race of your baby’s adoptive parents, but you’ll also be able to decide what the format of your child’s family will look like. Do you want them to have a two-parent household? Do you want them to have children already? What about pets? Are you comfortable with extended family living in the same household?
- What kind of lifestyle do I want for my baby? When choosing adoptive parents, you can consider whether you want your child to be raised by older or younger parents, and what you want their everyday routine to look like. Do you want them to be raised in an artistic household? Do you want them to travel and take lots of road trips?
- What values are important to me? While this could apply to the religion practiced by your baby’s family, it can also apply to their political leanings, commitment to education or other values. It may be important to you to find a family who values the same things you do.
It may be intimidating at first to choose every aspect of your baby’s prospective adoptive parents, but attorney Heather Strickland will be here to help every step of the way. Each pregnant woman’s process for finding adoptive parents is different, so we’ll help you determine what’s right for you.
How MyersStrickland Will Help You Find Adoptive Parents
When you meet with us at MyersStrickland, we’ll have a long conversation about your adoption options, your adoption plan and your adoptive family preferences before we even begin looking for adoptive parents. We’ll explain how we’ll guide you through the whole process and, once we understand what you’re looking for, we’ll find prospective adoptive families for your consideration.
To do so, we’ll reach out to our colleagues in the regional areas you’re interested in. If they have families who match your preferences, they will send us adoption profiles for you to view. These adoptive parent profiles are typically books or pamphlets with pictures of the family and descriptions of their lives to help you get a better sense of what kind of parents they would be.
If one or more of these families seems like they might be a good fit, we’ll guide you through a conference call or in-person meeting with them. You don’t have to choose a family until you’re 100 percent confident, which is why we recommend taking this extra opportunity to ask whatever questions you might have. This conversation doesn’t obligate you at all to choose a particular family, and we will be available to mediate the conversation if you’re unsure of what to say.
Deciding Whether an Adoptive Family is Right for You
While we will help you find a family in Arizona or another state, the decision on whether they’re right for you and your unborn baby is ultimately up to you. Getting to know the adoptive family can be awkward and uncomfortable at first, so we’ll provide you advice on what questions to ask and how to discuss certain topics.
After you’ve interacted with waiting families (whether through email, phone or in-person), you’ll need to ask yourself whether they seem like the right fit. Usually, you’ll have some sort of gut feeling when you’ve found the right match, but here are some good questions to consider if you’re unsure:
- Do they meet my expectations?
- Are they the kind of people I originally thought they were?
- Were they excited to get to know me and excited about the prospect of adoption?
- Did they answer all of my questions in a way that made me happy?
- Are they respectful of my wishes and preferences for my adoption plan?
- Did I get a good feeling from speaking with them?
MyersStrickland will not rush you into a decision you’re not ready for. We can help arrange any more conversations you’d like to have with the prospective adoptive parents and help you search for other adoptive families until you find one that’s absolutely perfect for you and your child. Every prospective birth mother has the right waiting family out there for her — and we will do all we can to help you find them.
Remember, you are never obligated to choose adoption, even after you’ve found prospective adoptive parents for your baby. Whether or not to choose adoption is up to you, and you will have the right to change your mind any time before you sign your adoption consent paperwork.
If you’re looking for a couple to adopt your baby and are ready to start finding adoptive parents, or if you have more questions about how adoption works, please contact us today at 520-327-6041 or online here.